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By Rusty Stewart, Ph.D..


Are you kidding me? What do you mean it’s not for everyone? I want a piece of this! Are you sure? We cannot be truly happy without the integration of the shadow and the light. Most people want the light without the darkness. Sorry, impossible. We live in a dualistic world. Life is about integrating all parts of us back to the remembrance of wholeness and the realization that we are Love. We must embrace all parts of ourselves. We must heal with others. We are not meant to heal alone or in isolation, even if we are connecting to God in meditation or prayer. We are spiritual beings having a human experience. We must heal our humanness. This requires lower charka work which means feeling and releasing fear, shame, guilt, and loneliness. Relationship work is necessary. For now we are concentrating of what Sacred Relationship is and what it is not. Soul Sex is the organic energy that heals separation and empowers us to realize our true human potential. Sacred Relationship and Soul Sex go hand in hand if you dare choose this path.

First let’s talk about Sacred Relationship. What it is not is keeping the peace at all costs. This stymies growth all around. Remember this, if we are not growing we are dying. We are here to grow! Tom Kenyon and Judi Sion speak about their experience in relationship in “The Magdalen Manuscript: The Alchemies of Horus & The Sex Magic of Isis.” “You can actually think you love someone so much that you never call them on their stuff, thinking it would hurt them too much. I’ll tell you what hurts—not calling someone on his or her stuff. That’s what kills and creates disease and compliance to non-growth and disillusionment. When you do not share your truth, one morning you wake up and find yourself living with a stranger, a roommate. This is not the road to Sacred Relationship (Kenyon and Sion, 2002).” The above description is one example of what Sacred Relationship is not!

Sacred Relationship takes courage, (1st chakra and 2nd chakra), and vigilant commitment! “Understand that you are in alchemical process when you are in Sacred Relationship; and you search for pictures, and sometimes when the pictures don’t match, you get scared. As this heat gets turned up and you can’t take the heat, go to another place where the heat is not so strong. Pause and let the world stop; take each others hands, though the last thing you want to do is touch each other in these times; speak the truth about what face is showing itself. Understand that telling the truth is not going to break apart anything. Always stay in truth. It’s going to get hot. Don’t give up. Buy a clutch pedal cover and put it on your altar. Hold hands and walk across the burning coals. And I promise you—you will think you are going to die. And you won’t (Kenyon and Sion, 2002).” As you can see this is not for everyone!

According to “The Alchemy Of Love And Sex” by Lee Lozowick we need to rethink and experience the energy of our charkas differently in order to engage in Soul Sex. The benefits of Sacred Relationship are the joy and happiness that comes from hard and deep soul work. Our relationship will alchemize into a celebration of oneness as we make Love and God with each other. True Love is unattached. It comes from the heart. But it is pumped up by the lower moving center (second chakra) to the seventh chakra in bliss and Soul Sexual union. The heart (the higher feeling center) needs to be open first before the lower moving center (second chakra) is activated. Otherwise, attachment and other dysfunctions can occur. It is also important to realize that the higher thinking center (third eye) is what opens the heart. So the key to Soul Sex and Sacred Relationship is working through the charkas from 1 (lower moving center), 3 (lower feeling center), 5 (lower thinking center), 6 (higher thinking center), 4 (higher feeling center), 2 (higher moving center), to 7 (connection to oneness and the divine). This assures us of proper energy transfer between the charkas (Lozowick, 1996). Obviously, this is not how we normally practice our growth in western culture. If we did, we would access more happiness, Love, and joy!

So you want Love and happiness in your relationship? The shadow says Sacred Relationship and Soul Sex are challenging to say the least, but well worth it if you can commit to transcendence with yourself and your mate. It can get dark at times and can get challenging healing the wounds, especially the sexual ones. Our religious culture and the church has distorted what sex is and deleted the truth in many instances. “In actuality, there is no need to refrain from the sex act in order to practice this form of alchemy. Indeed as Magdalen discusses in the Manuscript, there are ways that the sex act can greatly empower the ascent of sekhem, or ‘that which makes things erect,’ up the spine. For various historical reasons, too complex to go into here, the church separated sex from spirit, but in the ancient Egyptian understanding, they were intimately connected” (Kenyon and Sion, 2002). Thank God! We need to heal the separation. I’m all for this connection. I have experienced glimpses of Sacred Relationship and Soul Sex and know their power of healing and connection to God and Love. The path to oneness through Sacred Relationship and Soul Sex leads to happiness, Love, and joy, eventually. It’s not for everyone, but it’s better late than never for those of us still searching for happiness and higher consciousness in our relationships!