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Do You Want To Be A Superior Man?
Then Ravish Your Goddess With Your Open Heart!

By Rusty Stewart, Ph.D

Are you ready to choose mastery, mastery in all areas of your life? I promise you that your relationship with your companion, your lover, your partner, your Goddess will mirror every other aspect of your life and vice versa. Living life fully with limitless fervor requires an open heart and mastering the energies of Who You Are! Now I’m not talking about the macho man (closed heart) nor am I describing the new age wimp (who gives his heart away). I’m describing and witnessing the powerful masculine man who opens his heart fully and ravishes his Goddess with his deepest truth through Love. I’m speaking of Love so expansive that your Goddess is filled and overflowing with your gifts of the masculine. Now this, my friends means that you must fully understand the feminine and what they really want. And what Goddesses really want is a superior man, rather than a mediocre man..

I strongly recommend that you read David Deida’s book “The Way Of The Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges Women, Work, and Sexual Desire.” I’m talking to you men. I already know that the Goddesses will read this, because Love, intimacy and relationship speaks to them. “Every moment of your life is either a test or a celebration. The same is true about every moment with your woman, only doubly so. Not only is her simple existence a test for you, but one of her deepest pleasures in intimacy is testing you, and then feeling you are not moved off course by her challenge. The most erotic moment for a woman is feeling that you are Shiva, the divine masculine: unperturbable, totally loving, fully present, and all pervading. She cannot move you, because you already are what you are, with or without her. She cannot scare you away, because you already penetrate her in fearless love, pervading her heart and body. She cannot distract you, because your one-pointed commitment to truth will not bend to her wiles. Feeling this hugeness of love and freedom in you, utterly, and surrender her testing in celebration of love. Until she wants to feel you as Shiva again. And then the testing will begin anew. In fact, it is precisely when you are most Shiva-like that she will most test you. If you remain full and strong, humorous and happy, your truth unperturbed by her testing, then you pass the test” (Deida, 2004).

Wow, are you serious? Yes I am! Are you up for Who You Really Are? Do you really want to be in a passionate Loving sacred relationship with your Goddess, yourself, and life? I’m here to tell you that there is only one way to be. Be Who You Really Are and access the archetype of Shiva. Get over your bullshit and open your heart and be the warrior that you are! “If you are willing to discover and embrace your truth, lean through your fears, and give everything you’ve got, you can penetrate the world and your woman from the core of your being and bloom them into love without limit. You can ravish your woman so deeply that her surrender breaks your heart into light. You can press yourself into the world with such enduring love that the world opens and receives your deepest gifts. There is no essential difference between entering your woman’s feminine heart and entering fully into the world. Both forms of intercourse, sexual and worldly, require sensitivity, spontaneity, and a strong connection to deep truth in order to penetrate chaos and closure in a way that love prevails. Neither woman nor world are predictable. They will often seem to resist your gifts and test your capacity to persist. And, just as surely, they will tenderly respond to the authenticity of your relaxed ministrations, the freedom expressed in your humor, and the invasion of your adamant love. They will open in love and receive you fully—only to resist and test you again moments or days later. Neither woman nor world can be second guessed, or fooled. They know when you are just dicking around. They want to receive you for real” (Deida, 2004).

Trust is at the core of the masculine and the feminine. And your work as a man is being sure of Who You Are! So certain that you stand in the middle of the rapids of life unscathed. So self-assured that the only validation you need is through yourself. Then and only then can she “relax and trust your Shiva core. She can surrender the tensions around her heart. You are trustable. You don’t need her validation in order for you to be loving. You simply are loving. The truth of you is love. Your fullness is independent of mommy. You are not only a man, you are a superior man: a man who does his best to live as love in the world and in his intimacy, a man whose heart remains open and whose truth remains strong even when his woman criticizes him, a man who can find the humor in forgetting to pick up the milk on a day he made a million dollars. This is the kind of man your woman can trust. Now, the moment is a moment of celebration. Now she can relax and truly join in your jubilation, knowing you are not dependent on her praise for your happiness” (Deida, 2004).

Men, are you empowered yet? Are you clear about Who You Really Are? Are you clear about Who Your Goddess Is? Do you have clarity around what the oneness of Love is? Do you understand that your wholeness in interdependence is what ignites the dance of the feminine and masculine in blissful union? Are you ready to let go of what you think relationship is and embrace the Love that you are? Everything your Goddess does and is is both Love and a call for Love. Are you ready to answer your calling? Reflect and remember that “it never ends. This is the secret. You can’t get out of it. Finding a different woman won’t get you out of it. Therapy won’t get you out of it. Financial or sexual mastery won’t get you out of it. Your woman is testing you because she loves you. She wants to feel your truth. She wants to feel your love. And she wants to feel that your truth and love are stronger than the barbs she can throw at you. Then she can relax and surrender into the polarity of man and woman. Then she can trust you” (Deida, 2004).

In closing, I am going to challenge the men to take self responsibility and hold yourselves accountable for what you say you want in relationship. Take action, be in the unknown, jump off the cliff and grow your wings on the way down. There is no other way. And, know that all change is uncomfortable, but well worth the investment in yourself. The question you have to ask yourself is do I want the results described above in my relationship with my Goddess woman and am I willing to jump? This willingness is rare! Greatness is letting go of the normal and joining the few. Just remember, “The most loving women are the women who will test you the most. She wants you to be your fullest, most magnificent self. She won’t settle for anything less. She knows it is true of you. She knows in your deepest heart you are free. And, as you know, she’s quite good at it. Yet if your purpose is to be free, you wouldn’t have it any other way” (Deida, 2004). JUMP!